Location, location, location

Where oh where should our ceremony be? We live in Chicago and are regulars at a swank cabaret perfect for a reception, but our marriage would not be recognized here. Provincetown is a gay wedding mecca and close to Kelley's hometown in upstate New York, but we're not sure all our friends could plop down the cash for a destination wedding. Our hometowns -- Normal, IL and Elmira, NY -- are out because much of our family won't be invited. Chi-town or P-town, which will it be?