Tell all

Kelley hasn't told any of her family about our wedding plans yet which made for a couple funny moments at dinner last night. Her sister is in town for the weekend, and we went out for dinner with friends who -- reasonably -- forgot that we're being all weird about telling our folks and siblings. Twice -- once before we reminded them and once after -- they asked excitedly about how the ceremony planning was going. Their questions were met with silence.

It is as though we're coming out all over again, facing the same conflicted feelings and swallowed sentences. Everyone knows we are gay and are more and less OK with it. But there is something hard still about the "gay wedding" talk. Maybe it is because of the cultural debate that's raging about it now. Or maybe it is that we don't want to test their tolerance.

Anyway, Miss Alison will get the talk today. We'll see if the news is harder on the messenger or the receiver.